“So, what do you like?”
Your guide to PLEASURE MAPPING
“So, what do you like?”
It’s a question that can stop you in your tracks.
Maybe it came from the lips of a new lover, curious about how to touch your body for the first time or from a long-term partner looking to try something new to unlock more pleasure.
Don’t panic; you’re not alone. The good news is that you’ll soon be able to answer this question confidently. The answer to this question can be found in Pleasure Mapping – a solo touching exercise designed to help you connect more mindfully with sensual pleasure.
Maybe it came from the lips of a new lover, curious about how to touch your body for the first time or from a long-term partner, trying to make you burst with pleasure.
Pleasure Mapping isn't just about finding what turns you on—it's about connecting more deeply with yourself, your inner joy, your body and your boundaries. It's like creating a map of your pleasure treasure.
So, where should you start?
First, take things at your own speed. Pleasure Mapping is a slow-burn exercise, a self-paced discovery to understand your body’s unique pleasure points. Taking your time and doing this exercise on different days and times can help you learn more about yourself and what you like. Let’s get started by setting the scene for comfort. Choose a place where you feel safe and comfortable and have a little uninterrupted time.
1. LISTEN, I MEAN REALLY LISTEN.
It’s easy to get stuck on autopilot, relying on the same old patterns and routines to do the job. You may go through the motions without thinking about what your body craves. Pleasure mapping is an open invitation to be present in your body. You’ll have to slow down, listen, breathe, and give presence to touch and sensations. Before you begin, find a space where you feel safe and at ease.
2. IT’S TIME TO PLAY
Who says pleasure can't be fun? Pleasure Mapping is like a solo game of hide-and-seek. It’s the time to unleash your body’s playfulness through self-discovery. Experiment, giggle, and don't take yourself too seriously. After all, hide-and-seek is a game, even when played alone. Youse your fingers, a warm cloth or any other items you want to combine with touch to provoke pleasure. Maybe it’s a feather, an ice cube, a massager, body oil, a piece of silk or leather, maybe honey or whipped cream. Anything that can help you connect with the sensations of your skin.
3. CREATE YOUR PLEASURE MAP
It's time to start your treasure hunt. Set the scene, gather your exploration tools, and get ready to uncover your pleasure points. This game should take you from head to toe, exploring every inch of your body with curiosity and wonder. What makes you quiver with excitement? Take note, and let your pleasure map guide you to ecstasy. An essential piece of healthy sexuality is also mapping out boundaries. Pay attention to any areas of your body that send a firm “no signal” and take note. Perhaps it's calling you to explore something deeper, or maybe it’s a boundary you don’t want to cross.
Remember, Pleasure Mapping is all about mapping YOUR pathway to pleasure. An essential piece of healthy sexuality is exploring your boundaries, meeting your needs and expressing what you desire and deserve.
This new joy of self-discovery can help you confidently answer the age-old question, "So, what do I like?" so you can embrace your desires, celebrate your pleasures, and let the games begin!
